Wednesday, January 01, 2020

New Year

My skill is in taking pictures. I write but it's mostly work related. But i have good friends who have the flair for writing. Here's something my friend wrote for me.
This one is by Anubhav Kukreti

I make no promises....
Here goes by another year,
Of some unkept promises and missed milestones,
Of forgotten friends and their telephones
So I think of thee as the closing is near.-
Let us hope we keep in mind,
As life passes with breakneck speed
Taking away not years but decades indeed
To take time out from the usual grind.-
Time to seek out simple pleasures 
Sunsets,wind, hot tea and cold nights
Unhurried walks, talks and food bites
And live an year without much measures.-
Let’s each follow our own muse 
For a year of conscious wandering 
And dedicate it to our curbed hobbies and meandering 
To create some moments we can reuse.-
We can be joyful too with success aplenty,
Starting right this year of 2020 🥂
But I make no promises...
Happy new year

Saturday, January 13, 2018

Mothers love

आज सुबह जब नींद खुली
स्मृति पट पर एक प्यारी सी छवि
दिखी मानो हो कल की बात
निश्छल सुधरी दूध की धुली

प्यारा सा एक नन्हा आदू
आ सिमटा आंचल में मेरे
जाना यह मैंने पहली बार
कैसा होता मातृत्व का भार

हम सब के जीवन में आदु
कई रंग बिखेरे हैं तुमने
स्वच्छ, निर्मल,हंसमुख हरदम
ऐसे ही हो तुम सबको याद

आपने जन्म के तेरह साल
कब पार कर लिए चुटकी में
ऐसा लगता है कल ही तो
चले थे तुम पहली चाल

आशीष बड़ों का सदा रहे
जिस पथ पर भी तुम चलो निकल
अधरों पर सदा बनी रहे
मुस्कुराहट कभी ना हो विकल।

Written by Kali on Adu's 13th birthday.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Letter to my sons

Dear Aditya & Raghav,
Raghav you were born just about a month ago and today when i look at both of you I feel the magic of life, of creation. Adu, when i held you in my arms for the first time I felt amazed at the fact that your mom and i had a part in creating life. The feeling came back when i held you, Raghav.
The world is going through difficult times. At the moment you are protected from it by your childhood, but over a period of time will be exposed to it. And when you do so i want you guys to be prepared for it.
So why am i writing this letter to you, when i know that one of you is just about learning to read and the other is just about getting to recognize people around? Well, it is a small lesson for myself, a checklist on what i can do to prepare you, and myself.
Before you guys were born, we would wonder if it was worth bringing a new life into this chaos, with the words terror and recession being spoken more than love and happiness. But we are happy that we didn't succumb to this pessimism and brought you two into this world.
Now we have an option of bringing you up in two ways - first we protect you from all that is happening around, de-sensitize you to the world the other is to prepare you (without making you pessimistic or cynical) for life.
The first was tried out in the case of Gautama Buddha and when the walls came down it was a big shock for the family.We cannot insulate you from the world forever and eventually you will come face to face with the world. At that point in your respective lives, I don't want you to run away from reality, I want you to stand up and face it.
So, it will be our endeavor to raise you while preparing you and giving you skills, not just to survive but to lead a happy life. We cannot imagine your future life but can show you a way to live happily in an uncertain world.
These are the lessons you should remember (and that we will try to raise you with) -
1. Life is precious - Life is the most precious thing you have, enjoy it.
2. Face Fear - never run away from fear. Face it and you will never be afraid. Remember everybody is afraid of something, the brave guys just know how to overcome their fear.
3. Easier wrong Vs Harder right - Lots of time in your life, you will come to junctions / decision points where you have to take a decision. Never take a decision just because it is the easier way out, in the long run it the right decision may be harder but will serve you better.
4. Never have regrets in life - refer the previous point; when you take a decision it is like an arrow which has left the bow. So dont regret any decision, remember it was the best you could. And it will invariably be for the good.
5. Look for happiness in small things. It is the small things in life which count. Don't go searching for happiness, happiness is a state of mind and the more you look for it the unhappier you will be.
6. Family is like a foundation. Whatever the situation, it is the family which will always stick with you. Remember to take any criticism from the family in the right spirit. In the same line remember that the family which eats together stays together.
7. Remember your brother is your best friend. Aditya it is your example that Raghav will follow. And Raghav, remember that Aditya is always there to look after you.
8. Get a job you love. It is something you will do for a major part of your life. It will not be worth it if you don't like your job. And in the same line remember that money isn't everything. It comes and goes what stays with you is your strength of character.
9. Enjoy good food and music. Never go on a diet to reduce. Exercise is the best way to stay fit. Have a physically and mentally active life and you will be happy.
10. Lastly and most importantly, follow your conscience. It is the surest way of distinguishing between right and wrong.

With these 10 pearls of wisdom, i wish you both all the very best in life. I sincerely hope that we are as good parents as your grandparents were for us. Remember that we are also learning as you two grow up, the two of you are our biggest teachers.
Lots of love
Dad

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

25 Random things

I was motivated into writing this after reading my sisters notes and she in fact pushed me into writing this.
1. I hate writing about myself. So this might turn up very cryptic. Is that a negative way to start things... pessimistic or cynical? So for the next 24 random things about myself i will be more positive.

2.I am married to a lovely lady - Mitali and have two sons - Aditya and Raghav. I Love my family. I cant do without them.

3. I like to travel around and am happy that my naukri caters for most of my traveling. I have seen more exotic places in India than i could have imagined as a kid.

4. And when i travel i like to try out local food. I am of the firm opinion that you cant get the feel of a place until you try out the local cuisine. No point in having a masala dosa when you go to a Tibetan shack... better try the thupka or the momos.

5. I love kids. And i have this boring personality which helps in putting any and every baby off to sleep. Though i like to think that they find my aura soothing ;-)

6. I get these sudden urges to write and i love it when i get them. Though it doesn't happen as often as i would like it to. I write from anything to everything, even a vikram seth like prose in poetry.

7. I like to have things in order, though this habit of mine has been pretty much spoilt by Mitali as she is the one who keeps things in order at home. So nowadays when i am alone, things pile up when i suddenly get this fit of orderliness and set things in shape.

8. I like to stay fit. I am firm believer of the fact that the only way to stay fit is to exercise. Dieting is for the weak willed.

9. I like trying my hand at cooking stuff. And most of what i cook i cant replicate.

10. I like to stay abreast of technology. Even though i don't understand much of what is said or written I try my best to try and find out whats the latest.

11. I like to read. Mom and Dad got me into this habit of reading when i was a kid down with jaundice, and i am glad they did it. Today I read anything and everything. Though i have enjoyed almost everything i read my good friend chax will always crib that i didn't appreciate "Smilla's sense of snow".

12. Photography. I love taking pictures. thanks to the digital camera i can now take as many pics as i want. i feel pictures help me in remembering the good times and the fun times especially the times with family. and nothing like 'hard copies' or prints to browse through to remember those good old days.

13. I love having a cup of green / leaf tea early in the morning with Mitali. Sitting in the balcony / garden feeling the freshness of the morning refreshes me like nothing else.

14. I love flying. The magical feeling of a few tons of steel lifting off the ground has held me to this great profession since i was a kid. There is nothing like flying and there never will be anything like it.

15. I love calvin and hobbes. Though we do blame our son, Aditya's naughty streak on Mitali's reading calvin and hobbes when she was carrying.

16. I believe in the power of the mind. What the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.

17. I don't drink alcohol. Reason - It is a challenge not to drink in the profession I am in, when most around me, my very good friends drink. I have resisted it in my welcomes, farewells and wining out (even at the cost of appearing a boor)

18. I am not very good at communicating verbally with people; and i am told that because of this lots of people misunderstand me. It has been my endeavor to improve my verbal skills. Unfortunately i take time getting to know people and to open up. But the intention to improve is there.

19. I hate watching TV, but it doesn't prevent me from vegetating in front of the TV. Its what i resort to for taking my mind off stuff. Though the preferred medium is music and books.

20. I love to contribute to the environment. I cannot be called a hardcore environmentalist but i like to do my bit when and where i can.

21. I used to be an idealist a long long time ago. Today i have accepted the world with a little bit of cynicism but would still like to believe that tomorrow will be a better day.

22. My dream is to become a bush pilot. Will i ever have the courage to leave the security of a steady job and take up bush flying? i don't know but i don't think it should stop me from dreaming big.

23. I love nature. National parks, reserve forests and wildlife i would visit anytime. And i prefer these places to big cities any day. I dislike metros for their chaos, noise and fast pace.

24. My favorite books are Alchemist and Jonathan Livingston Seagull. I would have liked to give only one favorite book but i couldn't decide which one i feel influenced me more. That and the IF poem which hung over my study table in NDA which, every time i am at a tough cross road, i remember.

25. I did not think i would open myself up to 25 points. I told my sister that i couldn't write 25 things about myself so the last point i will not put as a point but just a note.

Saturday, December 13, 2008

How to fight terror

Ever since the 26/11 Mumbai terror attacks, I have been wondering if there is a solution to terrorism – religious or otherwise. Taking lives seems such a wasteful effort to any sane logical mind. I could not justify the reasons for killing innocent people. Yes being in the armed forces, I am in a profession where I could be asked to kill; but then I convince myself that when I do so it is while both sides are playing by some rules (however obscene they may be). But then when one of the sides is of no match to the other, does he play by the same rules? No, I don’t think so. That set me thinking; if the terrorists are not playing by the same rules then why are they targeting India? What has India done to come under fire? It is America and the western countries who are ‘waging a war against terror’ in Afghanistan and Iraq. So logic dictates that they should be targeted by these terrorist organisations. The reason why it is India is because we are in the neighbourhood, we are smaller and closer than the western countries and it is easier to show results here. After all whether it is our weak willed, thick skinned politicians or their venom spouting jihadi leaders, they have to show some sort of tangible result to their supporters / sympathisers. So the issue of Kashmir was raked up and action taken against India. A symbolic gesture like burning of an effigy; hit India and it is like hitting the western nations.
But how do you convince people that India is the enemy? While we say that the ability to think is what separates us from animals it is also our weak link. The mind can be manipulated and people can be brainwashed. A little misinformation, twist the information to suit your requirements and the same ideals which we use to maintain balance and sanity in the society, nationalism, religion, family etc, can be used to provide the spark to light the pyre of the mind.
So what is the solution? Do we fight with fire? Wage war against a nation? It may seem an effective solution initially; but it will only end up helping the enemy as it will validate all the claims of a big bully dominating a smaller country; or one religion fighting another. And as it can be seen in Afghanistan and Iraq, it will only worsen the situation. We will be stuck in the mire with no chance of getting out without loss of face. So what do we do? Indoctrinate our people (without discrimination of caste, creed, religion or ethnicity) that terrorism / extremism is not the solution to our problems. Choke the support to the terror groups within India, cut out the base for the terror organisations within our country. Basically brainwash our people that non violence is the path we should chose.
At this point I would like to divert a little from the topic. When my son was around two years old, like all kids his age, he was a bully, trying to dominate other kids. He would end up hitting other kids. With my beliefs and practice of non violence, how could my own son take to hitting other kids? So I took to explaining it to him that hitting other kids was wrong and he should not be doing it. And over a period of a couple of weeks I convinced him (or should I say brainwashed him) into believing that hitting other kids was wrong. A year later we moved to a different place with a different set of kids. Now at the new place he got beaten up often by other kids. At this point of time I was at a dilemma, all this while I used to tell him that hitting others was wrong and now he was getting beaten up and he was not responding because I had convinced him that it was wrong. End result was that he would end up crying every time. When I think about it I find so much of a similarity between this and what is happening to our country. All this while we have been brought up thinking that our path is one of non violence and if we brainwash all the people into believing that non violence is the path, then we will end up crying whenever someone hits us. Isn’t that what we have been doing after the ’93 blasts, the parliament attack and the present Mumbai terror attacks?
The solution lies in taking a middle path, convince everyone that we are all part of a whole, India. Stop splitting the country on the lines of religion, caste and ethnicity. Persuade people into believing that extremism leads nowhere, stifle the support to these terror organisations and at the same time take pro active steps diplomatically and militarily to hit these terror organisations.

Friday, December 05, 2008

1/2 boy 1/2 man

here is something that one of my friends sent to me. i felt it was touching enough to put it up... (no claims of originality here, it is by someone else and i dont take credit for it)

1/2 boy 1/2 man


While the average age of the army man is around 30 years, at the time of enrolling / commissioning he is around 19 years. He is a short haired, tight-muscled kid who, under normal circumstances is considered by society as half man, half boy. Not yet dry behind the ears, not old enough to buy a beer, but old enough to die for his country.

He's a recent school/college graduate; he was probably an average student from one of the Kendriya Vidyalayas, pursued some form of sport activities, rides an old mo'bike / scooter, and has a steady girlfriend that either broke up with him when he left, or swears to be waiting when he returns from half a world away. He listens to bollywood music or ghazals or rock & roll or hip-hop or country or swing …. ………. and a 155mm howitzer.

He is 5 or 7 kilos lighter now than when he was at home because he is working or fighting insurgents or standing guard on the icy Himalayas or the jungles of the North East from before dawn to well after dusk or he is in Mumbai engaging the terrorists. He has trouble spelling, thus letter writing is a pain for him, but he can field strip a rifle in 30 seconds and reassemble it in less time in the dark. He can recite to you the nomenclature of a machine gun or grenade launcher and use either one effectively if he must.

He digs trenches and weapon-pits and can apply first aid like a professional.
He can march until he is told to stop, or stop until he is told to march.
He obeys orders instantly and without hesitation, but he is not without spirit or individual dignity. His pride and self-respect, he does not lack.
He is self-sufficient.

He has two sets of combat dress: he washes one and wears the other.
He keeps his water bottle full and his feet dry... He sometimes forgets to brush his teeth, but never to clean his rifle. He can cook his own meals, mend his own clothes, and fix his own hurts.

If you're thirsty, he'll share his water with you; if you are hungry, his food. He'll even split his ammunition with you in the midst of battle when you run low.

He has learned to use his hands like weapons and weapons like they were his hands.

He can save your life - or take it, because that is his job.
He will often do twice the work of a civilian, draw half the pay, and still find ironic humour in it all.
He has seen more suffering and death than he should have in his short lifetime. He has wept in public and in private, for friends who have fallen in combat and is unashamed.

He feels every note of the Jana Gana Mana vibrate through his body while at rigid attention, while tempering the burning desire to 'square-away' those around him who haven't bothered to stand, remove their hands from their pockets, or even stop talking.
In an odd twist, day in and day out, far from home, he defends their right to be disrespectful. Just as did his father, grandfather, and great-grandfather, he is paying the price for our freedom. Beardless or not, he is not a boy.

He is your nation's Fighting Man that has kept this country free and defended your right to Freedom. He has experienced deprivation and adversity, and has seen his buddies falling to bullets and maimed and blown.
But, he has asked nothing in return, except our acknowledgement of his existence and understanding of his human needs.
Remember him, always, for he has earned our respect and admiration with his blood.
And now we even have women over there in danger, doing their part in this tradition of going to War when our nation calls us to do so.
As you go to bed tonight, remember this shot. . ....
A short lull, a little shade and a picture of loved ones in their helmets.

Prayer wheel for our military... Please send this on after a short prayer.

'Lord, hold our Indian Armed Forces in your loving hands.
Protect them as they protect us.
Bless them and their families for the selfless acts they perform for us in our time of need.
Amen.'


When you receive this, please stop for a moment and say a prayer for our soldiers, sailors and airmen, on all frontiers and wherever else they are needed. Pray for the Indian Soldier. Unlike your 'Babus' or 'Netas' He will always do you proud.

Monday, December 01, 2008

Mumbai terror attacks 1

I am sure all of us are as surprised at what has happened in Mumbai as the rest of the country (save those few inactive ppl who knew but chose to ignore it)... the accountability of the system is being questioned by all and i don’t propose to join the bandwagon.
We all know and agree that there is something wrong with the systems, especially the political one, one thing leads to the other, a dead political system leads to a dead bureaucracy, and a dying policing system. People are right in questioning the effectiveness of the cops with lathis and 303 rifles against terrorists armed with AKs, but while we voice our opinion for the powers to be to listen, we must also appreciate the fact that they are doing so unquestioningly.
How’s, whys etc will be answered in the near future, at least it will seem to be answered. The news will die down in a week or two. It will only remain in the memories of the few who have lost their near and dear ones. So what happens next? We sit and wait for the next 'breaking news'? Or crib and cry that the system is not doing anything, or isn’t good enough? Is that it? Guys, we are no longer the generation of tomorrow, we are the present of this country. If the system isn’t doing anything, it is because of us, all of us collectively have to take the responsibility for all that is happening in our country. Raising our voices is one bit, making it heard is another? In our respective capabilities we influence the future of our country. first thing is vote, and vote for someone you think is likely to do something for the country... I read somewhere that in case you do not find anybody worth it, you cross the entire list or there is an option at the bottom of the EVM. if more than some percentage of ppl exercise their vote to no one then the election is considered null and void. Maybe that would give our politicians something to think about.
Next, we don’t get carried away by the political posturing, and take our own intelligent decisions. I still remember that when we were in school there was no 'which part of the country you are from?', 'what is your caste?' etc... Today we are being divided on these very issues, why? Can’t we, as today’s generation, stand together and say that we are not interested in this crap... show us development and progress!
That is about all I can think of today, to repair the damage that is being done to our country... why don’t we discuss and put our minds together and think of something?